Today I’m guest posting over at my friend Leah’s space. You’ll find an excerpt of the post with a link to the full article included below.
Hey there Momma!
My name’s Christine. It’s so nice to meet you. Leah and I have been friends for over ten years – long before we were wives and mothers and work-from-home-mommas – and I love her and these secrets she shares here dearly.
By day, I homeschool my two oldest boys. By night I write. Some freelance. Mostly blog posts. Last year I released my very first book, and for the first time in a long time I felt like I was going somewhere other than the grocery store.
Then I had my third baby.
Please don’t get me wrong. This baby was prayed for, cried over, and more than two thousand percent wanted. The moment I laid eyes on that precious screaming face I could have thrown away every moment before that meant any kind of personal success. He is perfect – all sixteen plus pounds of spitfire energy – and my heart’s been broken wide open for the love of this little bright-eyed boy. No visitor statistic or sales update could even remotely compare to the joy I have in being chosen to mother Micah.
I’m seven months into this mom-of-three thing.
Still adjusting. Sometimes sleeping. Homeschooling on most days. And of course not writing as much as I’d love to. Of all the adjustments we’ve worked through as a family of five this has been the hardest for me. Writing has always been my outlet and without it I’ve been feeling pretty untethered and wildly unproductive.
See in this new normal productivity looks a lot like a shower before the kids are in bed, or a semi-home cooked meal, or trimming everyone’s fingernails. Gone are the days I could regularly tuck my writing into the fringe moments.
In this new normal Necessary trumps all.
Homeschooling is necessary. Eating is necessary. Sleeping and fresh clothes and somewhat clean floors – those are necessary (most of the time). There’s not a lot of time left for anything that is less than necessary.
Perhaps you can relate.
Necessary is the plight of every mom. Sure your story is different from mine, but you know the master that Necessary is – how demanding and recurrent and unforgiving he can be. You know that a momma’s things end up the last things on a long list of Necessary’s wishes.
And while Necessary and I are not always on friendly terms, I am trying my best to find balance in this often chaotic season.
These are the lessons Necessary’s been teaching me (when I’m awake enough to get them) . . .
For the full article Necessary Lessons: 4 Things I’m Learning as a Third Time Mom visit secretsofmommyhood.me.