Sometimes great ideas are born out of conflict.
My husband and I sat on opposite sides of the dining room table with quiet tears shared between us. I came to the conversation feeling unappreciated for the contribution I was making to our family, and so did he. At some point on our journey together—finishing school, starting a business, writing a book, working hard to make ends meet—we’d forgotten how to be grateful for one another.
Or at least how to express it.
It wasn’t what we meant or what we intended—but the feelings were there and they were real—and we needed to change because it’s not who we wanted to become.
Let’s make cheer jars. When we catch each other doing something good, we’ll write a note, drop it in, and read them together at the end of the month.
I paused for a moment before responding.
I think I’d like that.
At Mike’s job employees are nominated for cheer awards every month, catching people excelling at their jobs and celebrating their hard work organization-wide. What we adopted to appreciate one another has grown to include our kids and has become a cherished monthly ritual in our home. It’s caused us to be more thoughtful, more watchful, and while it hasn’t made things perfect between us, it sure has made a huge difference.
The Cheer Jar and How it Works
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